Obviously everyone will have their own experiences and ideas when planning their big day but today I’m sharing my personal Top 10 Wedding Tips. They aren’t rocket science, simply just thoughts and tips from a bride who has been there.
If my best friend was getting married, this is what I’d tell her…
- Set up a wedding website – this can act as a save the date and is great for providing your guests with info that may not fit on your invites. Directions, information of the day before, the big day or day after activities. This actually proved vital for us as a mixed up in customs meant our invites were delayed. We simply shared the website with guests and they could see all the details of the day. You can set up these up for free over on Minted.com and Squarespace.
- Keep track of all your wedding planning milestones (if you are sentimental) celebrate the little things as you most likely won’t do them again! Pop a bottle of champagne when booking your venue or treat yourself to a slice of cake when you say yes to the dress (go on, treat yourself!) Take little snaps of these moments and pop them in a scrapbook. Save to your Google Drive or Dropbox along the way.
- Remember it’s ‘your day, your way’. If you want to have things a little less traditional (within reason obviously!) stick to your guns especially if there are things you really don’t or really do want to do. For example: we didn’t want the traditional Irish announcement into the reception room with the music and clapping, we simply wanted to walk in when our guests were. The venue was a little taken back by this and kept asking were we sure this was what we wanted. It wasn’t in a pushy way, I think they were more shocked as everyone had just done that before us. The same when we chose to have our speeches before dinner to settle any nerves. Don’t just do things because you feel you have to or because every other wedding you have been to has done it a certain way.
- Create a wedding hashtag – this is brilliant for getting the excitement going among your guests and for photo sharing to gather up memories. Add the hashtag to your invites, your website (if having one) and have it displayed on the day. It’s also great for seeing the photos your photographers don’t capture especially those 3am dance-off ones! Also, leave selfie sticks in your bathroom baskets or on each table – this is a tip I got from a good friend’s wedding and it was excellent. They had little labels with their wedding hashtag which meant they had lots of fun group photos to look back on!
- Remember this is just as an important time for your parents as it is for you. It’s a big change in their lives too. Make sure they are involved in the planning and that you document these special moments to look back on in time.
- Unfortunately things can and will go wrong. No matter how much you plan and try to keep control on the day sometimes life just has other plans! Every big day (even the epic ones you see on One Fab Day) have had some sort of hitch whether big or small. Our day had little things here and there that didn’t go to plan but at the end of the day Michael and I still got married and that is the main thing. Always remember the ultimate goal of the day and that is to get married to the one you love, after that everything else is a bonus!
- For those who love the idea of a DIY wedding – only set out to do what you can manage. As much as you might love crafting or you are planning on saving money by making some details yourself, think to yourself will it be worth it when you just feel like pulling your hair out after the 136th personalised favour or 50th paper pom-pom?! I adore DIY but I made sure to only make things that I would enjoy making in small batches and also that wouldn’t end up costing me just as much as if I had bought it. I also wanted to make/create things that wouldn’t be wasteful. 100 pom-pots? What would I do with those after the big day? There’s also nothing worse than being at a wedding and seeing all those favours the bride and groom have stressed over just being left behind. My tip for favours? Choose something edible to leave your guests. Chances are they will have devoured them before the last song of the night!
- Similar to the last tip, when it comes to decor only buy what you really love or need, items that you can then repurpose or use in your home. I see it over and over again, brides trying their hardest to get rid of stuff that they spent so much money on for their big day. I’m not telling you to not buy pretty things but to be more mindful when deciding on what you actually love and need. Don’t just buy 50 pew ends because you think you need them. I’m a vintage lover so the bits that I bought I keep them all over my home as well as packed away for any events that Mum and I might be planning for in the future. I made sure during the planning process not to get too carried away buying all of the things I spotted at other weddings or that I found on Pinterest as much as I would have loved to!
- If you have lots of decor items as well as precious keepsakes make sure you have a plan in place or a person in charge of gathering all these bits up from the venue the day after. Very often these things aren’t noticed until you come back from honeymoon and by then the venue may have thrown them out.
- I’m sure if you chat to any other bride they will give you this exact same tip and that is to really and truly enjoy your day. Be present, don’t be wrapped up in what’s coming next i.e. the photos or speeches. The day goes oh-so-fast and you should enjoy every.single.moment that you both have worked so hard for. At some stage take just a few moments alone away from the guests and even the photographers and videographers to just take it all in. Have a snuggle and just remind yourselves that you just got married! One of my favourite moments from our day was when we were all dancing our socks off on the dance floor and Michael whispered in my ear “just take a look around, all these amazing people are here for us to celebrate our day”. My heart could have exploded just looking around at everyone’s happy faces looking back at us. Even though you will have gorgeous photos or a video from your day these are the precious moments that will always remain in your heart.
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